How do you prepare for a divorce.? There are many things that you can do. The first thing is just to get educated on the process. If you know what the process is going to be in the future, it makes you relax a little bit about where you are right now.
Choose an attorney. If you're going to hire an attorney, that should be your very first step. And then that attorney may have some other things that they want you to do, but these are some of the basics.
The most important thing is get yourself organized. Go through and start gathering your W-2's, your tax returns, your bank statements, your pay stubs, retirement accounts, credit card statements, anything that shows what the value of your assets and your debts are. Gather anything that shows documentation of the value of anything that you brought into the marriage that you may want to take separately from marital assets. If you have any of those documents, dig them up, show them to your attorney.
The other thing that you might start doing is investigating things for life after divorce. You may want to start looking at what it would cost you to live after the divorce. Are you going to be able to afford to stay in the home? Do you need to go somewhere else? And if you need to go somewhere else, what is that going to cost you? If you need to do some training or education or something like that so that you can support yourself afterwards, you need to start investigating that early. Don't wait until the divorce is over to figure out that you need some job training to be able to support yourself. If you want to go to school, find out what that costs and what you need to do to get yourself enrolled in that school.
Sometimes you need to establish credit in your own name. Maybe you need to start a separate bank account in your own name. Do that early.
Stay off social media. There's nothing really good that's going to happen on social media. Don't ever put anything on social media negative about your spouse, about your children, about your spouse's family, about what you're doing that you're not supposed to be doing, or what he's doing or she's doing that they're not supposed to be doing,. Just stay off social media. In fact, in my firm, I have a social media addendum to my contract. Because anything that you put on social media is something that may be put before the judge when you're sitting in that courtroom.
Focus on your children if you have children. Don't badmouth the other parent. Try to keep the children out of the middle of it, don't have them go tell mommy or go tell daddy this or that or play games with your children. Try to keep them out of the middle of it.
Stay single. If you haven't already started dating, don't start dating while you're getting divorced. If you already started a relationship, maybe you need to consider putting that relationship on hold until your divorce is final. It always complicates things.
Secure any kind of irreplaceable heirloom items or items of value if you think there's a possibility that they'll be lost or misplaced or damaged.
Keep a journal. A divorce may take you several months or years to get down the road. Things get all jumbled up during that time. By the time that you start having to testify on the stand, things get all muddled. If you have a journal or a calendar, it helps you keep things straight. You can figure out what happened first or about when something happened. It will just make you so much more comfortable as you get towards the end of the process.
And the number one thing is, take care of yourself. Make sure that you're eating good food, that you're getting some exercise, and that you're sleeping. Maybe you need some counseling. There's no shame in having counseling. And take some support from your friends. Be very careful about what you tell them. Try to not focus on the divorce when you are with them. Just focus on being well and healthy and present for yourself and your children.
I hope this helped you with some tips about how you can prepare for a divorce. If you think this will help somebody that you know, please share. If you'd like more information, subscribe to my YouTube channel.
Nedra K. Howard
Nedra has represented clients in matters relating to divorce, separate maintenance, child custody and support, family violence protective orders, adoption, prenuptial agreements, business disputes and litigation, personal injury, property damage, and wills.
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